Christian help for dating
What if dating is about getting to know someone and gauging interest, not lifelong compatibility?The great thing about changing expectations is that it lowers the pressure on grabbing dinner together and figuring out if the two of you even like talking to one another!Dating with a trajectory towards marriage means dating with a purpose.
Dating with a trajectory towards marriage doesn’t mean you only date one person ever. So, if you choose not to get coffee or watch a movie with the opposite sex, then whatever. The ultimate purpose of marriage is sanctification (becoming like God). If you have no idea what values are important to you in a future spouse, exit the road to marriage at the next off ramp. And unless someone’s making arrangements for you, it’s worth spending at least a little bit of time with the person before you decide if they are worth marrying. But it’s foolish to think that the way a girl or guy acts in a group of friends is the same as how they’ll act one on one.Dating helps two people sort out what it would be like to be together, to be in a friendship.You can’t maintain 10 flirty friendships and expect to make space in your heart for one awesome husband or wife.But you can start somewhere—slowly, and casually—and trust God to lead you into more.