Dating really tall men
How can you get thicker skin about your height when society – and many men – are too intimidated to date a tall woman? For anyone who deals with sex or appearance issues, I always encourage them to be disciplined about getting some private naked time at home.Spend a few minutes every day – at least for a month or so – looking in the mirror at your body, and complimenting parts of your body out loud. Some tall women give themselves permission to wear heels when they’re out with a man who is the same height or shorter, but I know many women who still cater more to men’s feelings and wear flats just in case he feels uncomfortable with the height discrepancy. It is crucial that you wear whatever shoes and clothing you want to wear, because you need to start every relationship focusing on your needs and desires – not the other way around.
Dating a tall guy is altogether a different experience. He can pick up all that stuff lying on the top shelf or on top of the fridge, and all those places you can't reach.“Overall, I think you look pretty good,” for example, or “I like my [insert body part].” If you can’t come up with a few body parts that you like, you need to accept that you’re not going to attract a good guy until you feel better about your body. I remember after Nicole Kidman and Tom Cruise divorced, she joked on a talk show that she could “finally wear high heels.” Wrong, Nicole: It would have been better for your self-esteem to have worn them all along. If you’re a tall woman who’s dating someone new, odds are that the height issue is going to come up in conversation.If he broaches the issue, don’t be defensive but feel free to ask him where he stands on the issue.Recently, a colleague of mine, a successful psychologist in her mid-30s, confided in me about an ongoing problem she faces in her dating life: She feels that she’s simply too tall for most men, standing at almost six feet.The issue she struggles with is the same issue many other tall women deal with as they look for a good romantic partner.